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Who says that spending time all by yourself can’t be fun? In this post, I share with you the best self-date ideas.
Giving yourself attention and taking time to do things that bring you joy without the need of having others around is such a beneficial thing to do.
You get to know yourself better, learn how to interact in situations you might find awkward and grow with them. Plus you prove to yourself that you are indeed capable to create your own happiness. The perfect boost for your confidence and independence.
I recommend choosing one afternoon or night every month doing something just for you that feels special to your Soul.
No matter whether you are single or not, self-care solo dates are a great thing for everyone.
Something about being around plants is so relaxing. One of my favorite ways of dating myself is going to the Botanical Garden close to where I live.
Personally, I can recommend it most during the golden hour time as I love the atmosphere of the light falling onto the plants a lot. Green and gold just fit very well, I guess.
It’s also good for inspiration for every plant mom out there. As we all know there are a lot. For a good reason! Plants are just such an improvement to every place.
Go to a concert
Going to a concert alone costs quite an effort to do. At least for me, it was like that. But I’m so glad I Ioved the artist too much to ever question whether to go there or not. I had no other choice.
Of course, there is a lot of waiting involved, but there are a lot of people you share a huge similarity with – your taste in music. Which is hard to find these days!
Maybe you find a new friend there, maybe not. Don’t pressure yourself. It’s your date! If you leave it alone it’s absolutely fine. The goal is to have fun and to prove that you can make that happen for yourself and by yourself.
Let’s break the social construct of needing a bunch of other people around you to be happy, just to not look all too weird.
Did you ever come across a cute café but had no one who wanted to go there with you?
Or you are new in town and still don’t have someone to try out all the little spots you feel drawn to?
Just go there by yourself! I had my best time sitting in a small café, eating yummy cake and reading my favorite book. I just love the background noises and the whole cozy atmosphere.
It’s perfect for reading, journaling, and dreaming yourself away – which is best done all by yourself!
Explore a nearby city or landmark
When the next big trip is still in distant future or not even planned yet, we can use this form of self-care date as a little in-between solution.
There are so many beautiful places nearby that we don’t even know about.
Exploring the places not far from where we live can sometimes have the same effects as exploring places far away from home.
Do some research on the treasures that are just around the corner.
Movie Night At Home
First of all, the best part is that you can choose the movie. No discussions, whatsoever!
Make it as comfortable and cozy as possible. Get all the blankets out, light all the candles you got, and make yourself your favorite snack. Just do what you can to make it feel special to you and not just like another Netflix night.
Go for the movie you always wanted to watch, but strangely kept yourself from doing so, waiting for a special occasion. Now is the special occasion!
This one is also a good alternative to the classic cinema solo date if that’s still feeling too strange for you.
Cook your favorite comfort meal
This one is fancier than it looks like. How often are we way too lazy to even spend 20 minutes of cooking, because we are hungry NOW.
Don’t we deserve to take the time to cook for ourselves? It has to do a lot with the environment we are in. We naturally aren’t that drawn to cook in a messy kitchen. I totally get that on weekdays we got other things to do and that means that dishes pile up.
Just choose a day of the week, where you take some time to make your kitchen your new comfort and cooking space. The outcome will be so worth it!
The classic Cinema date
Besides the restaurant date probably the most popular date idea.
Why not eating all the popcorn by yourself and choosing the movie you really want to watch?
Try out new styles
Either you go closet shopping or you go shopping at the mall and try on some clothes you would usually not wear but are curious about. Patterns or cuts that speak to you.
This is just so much fun. This way you can find out which styles and colors suit you very well and which trend you can gladly leave behind.
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Living room dance party
Play your favorite songs and just start moving.
There is no easier way to get yourself in a happy mood. Music is perfect for lifting our energy. Plus the dancing we are save to have a good time on our own.
Take a walk
Is there a park or hiking trail nearby that you always wanted to explore?
Take your time and discover the gems of nature in your immediate environment.
Truly look at the beauty of nature. On this self-care date, you decide the pace and which way to go.
Nature’s sounds are incredibly relaxing and will do their best to get you out of your head. Or you could listen to calming music while you take your walk.
Solo Travel or day trips
There is no better way of getting to know yourself than traveling alone.
So many new impressions and experiences to find yourself in. Being alone enables you to be at those foreign places with all your attention. Allowing yourself to be completely present and THERE.
Another advantage is that you can decide everything. When to get up, what to do, where to eat,…
The pure embodiment of a classic self-care date.
Take your time to pamper yourself. Take a bath or a long hot shower.
Get the bathrobe on and treat your body with your favorite body lotion.
For the right atmosphere, you can light some scented wax candles and play spa music as background noise.
This is also the perfect way to unwind after a long day.
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Sounds cheesy but actually it’s pretty amazing.
Although it can be quite difficult to find a place where it’s dark enough.
Looking at the night sky has something magical to it. You start to feel very small but at the same time part of something way bigger than you could ever understand.
Driving around listening to your favorite playlists or a new album
There is this special need for having a unique experience when listening to a new album by an artist we love.
Driving around while listening to our favorite music does create this special feeling. For me, it has to be a certain kind of weather – gloomy (or even rainy), or golden hour/sunset/afterglow time.
What is your favorite self-care solo date idea? Leave me a comment below! I’m excited to hear from you.
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